Here is an important question for you to ponder with honesty: In your relationship with God… do you view God as more of a giver… or a taker? The answer to this question will frame your perspective of God, his character, and how he relates to the issues of your life. Beth Moore posed this question in a recent study called “Inheritance”. She asks “In your heart of hearts… and in your darkest darks… what do you really think is God’s character… giver or taker?”
If we view God as a giver, we will trust him. We will know that everything will be ok, even when we can’t imagine how it will be. We will believe that EVERYTHING is for our good. We will persevere and prove faithful, and God will bless that kind of love and trust in ways we can’t even fathom. But if we view him as a taker, even the slightest trials will cause us to run from God, curse God, and try to take control. We’ll think it’s on us to take care of ourselves, fix ourselves, and watch out for our best interests, even though half the time we may not know what those are! It will also cause us to think that it’s on us, to protect and save everyone around us. That’s a lot of pressure! We end up with great anxiety and might actually miss God’s blessings in it… and miss him proving to be protector, provider, rescuer, etc.
The enemy of course wants us to see God as a taker. From the very first days of Eden, the enemy convinced Adam and Eve that God was withholding something from them. God had given them EVERYTHING and yet, the enemy prodded “God is not good. He does not love you. He only wants to control you. And he’s holding out on you.” This is the same trap we fall into today. Yes, some of us have endured unbearable losses. But why do we fix our entire perspective of God on these losses, ignoring all the amazing blessings he’s lavished on us?
I have endured much loss in the past ten years. Two most recent stick out to me and I still grieve them. And yet, what God has GIVEN me through those losses is pretty profound. I had spent a lot of time cursing God for taking… although now blessings are STILL unfolding.
Matt Redman has a song that I often think of in times of loss. It says “You give and take away. You give and take away. My heart will choose to say, Lord blessed by your name.” This is good theology. The world is not about us. It’s complicated and God has to work everything out to a lot of people’s good and his glory. We have to have realistic expectations and when things are going south, still praise God. A relationship is not real when it’s conditional. I cannot only love God when he is blessing me. How ridiculously selfish would that be (though it’s often my inclination)? When I sing this song, I sing it with clenched teeth. I sing it with determination because it’s hard to praise God in loss… but that may be when it’s the most important, so that we don’t lose perspective of who God really is, in the bigger picture.
That line from the song is based on Job. Job had everything taken away from him. We can’t even imagine the amount of loss that Job experienced. And it was all to prove that Job would stay faithful. Job’s wife told him to curse God and die. But he would not. Yes, early in the book Job says “The Lord gives and the Lord takes away.” But this was not the end of Job’s story. God accomplished what he had to in and through Job, and then gives again. Job’s faithfulness was not dependant on God’s giving. He was faithful before he ever knew God would restore. But it says that God blessed the second half of Job’s life even more than the first.
You see, the Lord gives. The Lord takes away. But the Lord always GIVES BACK IN ABUNDANCE! His glory is seen in his love, in his goodness, his mercy, and what he gives. Our relationship, our love, cannot be dependent on what he does for us, but on who HE IS. And yet, point of fact, it is his very nature to give.
If you scan the Bible, there are loads of verses that talk about God being a giver. Scripture says he lavishes on us grace and love and mercy. Matthew 7:11 talks about how God LOVES to give good gifts to his children. Romans 8:32 says “He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?” God loves to love. And to love is to give. Let’s look at another example of God giving, taking away, and giving back…
God had made a promise to Abraham: His descendants would outnumber the stars. Abraham waited until his 90s for an heir to be born. This was a miraculous child on which it appeared the entire promise lie. But then God did something crazy. God asked Abraham to give up Isaac, his precious son, his treasure. The NIV reads: “Take your son, your only son, whom you love—Isaac—and go to the region of Moriah. Sacrifice him there as a burnt offering on a mountain I will show you.” Wow – Really? God finally gave Abraham what he’d wanted his whole life… and now he’s asking Abraham to willing give it back? “You son, your only son, whom you love…” This was the most precious thing in Abraham’s life… except for God himself.
I could spend pages and pages on this story, as oddly I’ve heard messages on this story more times in the past eight months than in my whole life… but I want to point out something new that Beth Moore shared in her message.
If you look back into the original Hebrew, you see an additional word “na” that the King James and the NASB translates as “please” or “I pray”. Beth Moore explains that this is a word that is not often used and may be why it is dropped in the NIV. However, it’s an extraordinary word and each time it’s used (only five times in all of scripture) it is used in powerful context. God is actually saying “take PLEASE Abraham, your son, your only son that you love…” God’s emphasizing the importance of what he is asking Abraham. It’s as if he’s saying “Abraham… this is really important and you just have to trust me. Please do this; I pray you will, even though it may not make sense to you.”
Beth points out that Abraham was not against questioning God. He’d done it several times before. But this time he doesn’t. There must have been something both in the urgency of God’s request as well as the where Abraham was in his relationship and trust with God that just didn’t require question. It doesn’t necessarily mean it was going to be easy, but he believed the goodness of God and that God would somehow work it out. Abraham believed that God was a giver, not a taker.
In hindsight, we know it was a test. In fact, this story is the most quoted story on testing of faith in all of scripture. But Abraham didn’t know it was a test. He just believed God and did as was asked of him. By doing so, he got to see God keep a promise. He got to see God as provider. He got to see how far he’d come in his relationship with God. He saw so many amazing things that he would not have seen, had he chickened out. And all of this would have still been true even if he’d had to slay his son. God showed to be giver in letting him keep his son. But even if he hadn’t, he would have shown himself giver in some other way. God loved Abraham and wasn’t screwing with him. He had to test him to know he was up for the tasks he had planned for him, and that he was fully devoted, willing to give up everything. And he was rewarded for it. He not only got his son back, but he got far, far more.
God loves you too and is not screwing with you. You may be Job, having suffered substantial loss and waiting for it to turn around. You may be Abraham, where God is asking you to give up for him something as precious to you as life itself. I personally am in the midst of both. But you have to believe, that God is a giver, not a taker. He loves you. He loves those you love. And he will NOT disappoint. Hold on and TRUST.
I’m going to conclude this with an assignment for you… and a favor for someone I love.
Your Assignment – Work through the following questions:
1. On a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being taker and 10 being giver, how do you view God? What situations in your life have caused you to view him this way?
2. Think back on any situation that caused you to view him more as a taker. What other lies did that situation cause you to believe about God or yourself? Ask God to reveal these and replace them with the truth of who he is, how he loves you, and what he’s been/done in your life. Where possible, find scripture on this and write it on note cards as necessary to remember.
3. Look at that situation again. Prayerfully ask him to reveal to you any and all blessings that may have already come out of those circumstances. How has he redeemed the situation? Praise him for what he reveals.
4. Look at what’s going on in your life today. What Isaac do you need to entrust to God remembering that God is a giver, not a taker? Release it to God and commit to trust him in the situation.
The Favor I Ask – I have someone in my life who is so convinced God is a taker, that this person won’t/can’t accept the truth of Jesus and its breaking my heart. I’m literally losing sleep over it. This person feels the pain of situations past and holds it against God, but the discontent this person experiences today, is all the more evidence that Jesus is needed more than ever. I would be so grateful if you could join me in praying for this person. Let’s just call this person “S.G.”. God knows the full name and all the details of the situation. Pray for break through. Pray this person would be released from all the lies that are currently being believed. Pray this person will see Jesus clearly, feel His love, and receive Him and all He has to give. And pray however else the Lord leads. He’ll tell you. Thank you!!!!
Footnote: Much of the content for this blog is attributed to Lesson 2 of Beth Moore’s study “Inheritance”. I strongly encourage you to check out this study. It’s fabulous!